Been a long two weeks! My birthday was great, as first I thought it would be super tough without hearing from my mom, but almost everyone reached out and that was lovely.
Then Jessica was in town and we had plenty to do. First was drinks when she arrived, and next day she walked around while I worked. After I got off work, we went to the Fluevog store, and pretended we were rich and tried on shoes, and debated buying the Munster re-issues, she looked amazing in them. I did put the
Bartoli Lace Up Bootie
Then we browsed All Saints and had some fun. Next was meeting Danny and Sergio for dinner at this great Italian place called: Perbacco, it was the best place Danny has ever picked for dinner! Really great. Friday sadly Jessica started getting sick, but she seemed to walk the entire city :), and have fun. I got home and made martinis – dirty ones and Bonnie came over and her friend/cousin Tim and his friend and we might have had a lot to drink before hitting up Cat Club and dancing the night away.
Whew, it was a long night, giant burritos after were a good and bad idea! But, we rallied the next day and took a slow walk down to Fluevog and stopped a bunch to look at clothes, get coffee, food and water. A brief stop at Angelic Pretty, where we both wanted all the cute clothes and then Fluevog, where I got my lovely shoes <3. Home to change and get ready for Fever Ray!! Woohoo!! We got to The Fox Theatre Oakland and had VIP, which was super nice and chill. Snacks, water, short bathroom lines and awesome sight lines to watch the show.
After all that we had a quick bite to eat then home to crash. The next day we did JapanTown and it was great, we ate Japanese food, we walked around and Jessica got the best pants, that looked terrible on me! Sunday night we just chilled and stayed at home, it had been a long weekend. But Monday we had plans to go out, but had to bail, as Jessica was still sick, and Bonnie was a little under the weather as well. So Jessica and I went to the Haight, and had way to much fun trying on clothes, eating Vegan Burgers and been goth girls :).
Sometimes I am too goth:
Home to change and experience at least one Monday night of Death Guild. We made it and it was super fun, sadly I had to leave early as work beckoned, :(. But, I danced and had a lot of fun.
Next was Jessica’s last day, she went to SFMoMa and saw the new exhibit – Magritte and then it was taco time in The Mission. And next day bye Jessica.
Well, it has been and up and down weekend, I actually don’t know how I feel, numb I suppose.
On Friday I got home and Matthew and I went out to get tamales, as he was down. On the way home, and just sitting down, opening the book of face, I got a text from my friend Nico, that Alabaster died. I immediately texted her and looked at FB, it was true, not a rumor and holy shite, one of the people whom I loved and always had time for was gone. Alabaster was not just a DJ, and stylist, a influencer, a friend. Alabaster was more, a friend who loved you no matter what, who called you out, who loved music, who sought out new music, who befriended all who accepted them. Someone who searched for love and acceptance and who gave it without thought. We both adored Siouxsie and Diamanda Galas, we both loved rap and outrageously silly music that people danced too.
Saturday Greg A was in town, so I hung with my bestie, went for breakfast, went record shopping, ran into my friend Lisa from Variety Playhouse at Amoeba Records. Next up was getting to Oakland for Greg’s brother’s baby’s naming ceremony in a park. We did that, ate more food, and walked about, played soccer – sorta – in the sun and had fun.
I spoke to Lynda a bunch about Frank Senior – and it was wonderful. Home to fight and fight a headache.
Then Mother’s Day, ouch. I miss the two people I called my moms so bad. Both my mom and my Aunt Lynette, both taken by cancer. And tomorrow is a year since my Granny died. Just Fuck.
But, today I got up, went out, had great a great smoothie at
Beloved in the Mission, went to a warehouse sale at Five and Diamond and managed not to buy anything. Wine and Tapas with Bonnie after and now home, to do laundry and prep for the week.
I can’t make Alabaster’s funeral, but I could donate to help with costs. I can’t talk to my mom, but I could tell my sister she is doing a fantastic job with my nephews, I can’t tell Lynette how much she meant to me, but I can tell my Aunt Linda how wonderful she is. I can’t be there for my friends grieving but I can be there in spirit and give them time when they need to talk. Life is weird.
“Then darkness took me, and I strayed out of thought and time, and I wandered far on roads that I will not tell.”
I read this today and wow, it is the most moving quote I have seen. From the Two Towers by Tolkein.